Originally Posted by garce

Your grandmother is not your responsibility. Abandon her and leave her die. Sue the state when she does. You have no obliation to provide care for your grandparents.

Its probably different in the States...

I took care of my mother-in-law from 2002 to mid-2007. She died mid-2010. I took care of my mother from late 2007 till her death in June 2010. During THAT time, I had two grown children in college, was paying my mother's bills and caring for my severely menatlly diabled sister.

My sister is still under my care. My kids are still in college. To ice the cake, my ex (the mother of my kids) is bipolar, and my "wife" (my mother-in-law's daughter) is an unrepentant cocaine addict.

It is IMPOSSIBILE to live a satisfying life while providing 24 hour a day care for people you are not responsible for. My children suffered because of the obligations I felt I had to fulfill.

It would have been so much easier to take my kids and move to a different city; into a different house. If I had the chance to do it over again, I would.

If you ever wonder why I'm so bitter, refer back to this post.