Quote:
Originally Posted by Due
At this stage you actually already gave your daughter the control. She is doing things you ask her when you count to 2 because she knows you let her wait till you count to 2. I was doing the same until realized that I'm just giving them time to build up a conflict (got a 4 and a 6 year old). Now I typically give a timeout / say no tv / games / pool or whatever it is at the time I would normally say ONE or don't make me count.
Never turn it into a negotiation which "counting" really is.
Can't say if my way is the best way or not, it seems to work, I can't picture myself lay a hand of any of my kids. It teaches fear not respect  |
WOW! Great perspective.
I think i will be adding time outs to my daughters punishments. Its something I tried doing and my daughter did run us over. But I think that my daughter will take the time outs more seriously now, knowing that if she does not listen, there will be a "spanking".
Im no expert and if you dont have kids your opinion is useless on what to do or not to do. Because when you got your own, there is nothing that can prepare you for it.
I had all kinds of opinions and preconceived notions on what parents should and should not do. I would point out to misbehaving kids and say that their parents are "BAD". Man, I truly had no idea on how hard being "not a bad parent" is.
Yesterday I had a tough decision to make:
I had tickets and All Access passes and press passes to Metallica, Slayer, Megadeath and Anthrax at an out door festival concert in Indio California. Was really stoked and excited to go. Being friends with Kerry King of Slayer and getting a chance to meet and party with the guys from Metallica and Slayer would have been insane to miss and a chance of a life time.
But, my girlfriend with out me knowing had planned a day at The Underwood Family Farm with the kids and my mother and step-father were coming up from Redondo Beach to join us. This farm is pretty cool. Kids get to feed and pet animals and we all get to pick our own vegetables from the ground. A Fully functioning farm with lots to do with your kids.
Surprisingly the decision was easy. I worked 10 days strait and and was pretty busy for that whole time. I didn't even know about what my girlfriend planned and I did not know this was Easter weekend and I failed to mention that Slayer fell on this weekend. But when I woke up Saturday morning I put my Slayer shirt on and my girlfriend said "you ready to go to the farm", I said "yes."
I love Slayer, and Metallica, but I love my kids that much more. Surprisingly the decision wasn't even hard.
Quote:
Originally Posted by CDSmith
I have to say this is the best comment I've read from a parent in quite some time (on any board or online forum)
Bravo.
|
Thanx
Im still learning new things everyday. Two things i know as a fact:
#1- I was a seriously abused child growing up and I will never do anything that was done to me, to my kid!!! My upbringing gave me a good list on what not to do to your kids.
#2-Being a porn shooter and interviewing every girl that I shoot, I have another good guide on what not to do to your children.