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Originally Posted by Due
At this stage you actually already gave your daughter the control. She is doing things you ask her when you count to 2 because she knows you let her wait till you count to 2. I was doing the same until realized that I'm just giving them time to build up a conflict (got a 4 and a 6 year old). Now I typically give a timeout / say no tv / games / pool or whatever it is at the time I would normally say ONE or don't make me count.
Never turn it into a negotiation which "counting" really is.
Can't say if my way is the best way or not, it seems to work, I can't picture myself lay a hand of any of my kids. It teaches fear not respect  |
You make some good points in your post Morten but I have to take issue with that last coment. It's a complete falacy. I was spanked as a child, at different times by both my dad and my mother. I can assure you I have a clear memory of pretty much every time and why it was done. I can also assure you that no one had (and still has) more respect or love for their parents than me. Sure as a little kid you fear the spanking, but even as a toddler I always knew it was done because A) I deserved it, and B) they cared.
Spanking isn't the evil thing that some seem to think it is. And in looking around at a lot of today's youth and teenagers who have no respect for adults nor a fear of authority, who are out stealing cars or otherwise shit-disturbing wherever they go and then mouth off at anyone who dares to challenge them or tell them what idiots they're being,... well, it's not hard to see that there wasn't enough discipline in their childhoods.
Of course everyone should go with what works for them. But people who flatly dismiss spanking, look down their noses at those who do it, etc, really need to wake up and take a look around in society because there's a real problem brewing out there. Teachers and principals used to have some disciplinary recourse back in my school days, now they have nothing. Expulsion? Pffft! Bratty undisciplined kids LOVE time off from school. Many of them have zero respect for a teacher's authority and couldn't care less if an adult is angry with them. They know the system and know how to work it to get that adult in trouble, which all but makes some adults actually fear the kids.
I'm not saying spanking is the end-all be-all solution to the world's problems, but a little more of it in certain kids lives definitely couldn't hurt.