Jane,
I'm a nobody in this adult world. However, I do read a bit. I've experienced what happened to you and it did upset me. I was upset with the PIMP, not the ho. I found out later that I was in the wrong. It took me a while to understand why I was wrong as well...
Here's some good reading for you:
Because pimps respect free enterprise and competition, women are free to "choose up" whenever they are dissatisfied with their current pimp.
You choose up. And if you're with a pimp and you want to go with another pimp, you have to put the money in the other pimp's hand and let your man know, you know, you're leaving and going with somebody else ....I've been with three (Elsie).
Outside pimps are free to attempt to seduce a woman away from her current pimp and into his stable for his financial gain. He may do this without retaliation from the current pimp, as the street rule is "Bros before Ho's" (Massi). With this ever present threat to his livelihood, it is in the pimp's best interest to keep his women happy. In the event that she is approached by another pimp, she is not to respond to his strategies. She is not to make eye contact with another pimp. If she does, then she is "out of pockets" a term referring to women who flirt with the other pimp, and is subject to being "broke," meaning physically reprimanded. On the other hand, the enticing pimp may choose to "break her" and take all her money. He is not subject to reprimand. Rules may vary in situations where a woman is prohibited from making eye contact with a pimp, to situations in which she is not allowed to make eye contact with any African American male.
I mean most of the time, if they're a true pimp, they're not gonna play like that. You know, they'll harass you and you mainly just turn away and look in the other direction or whatever, and try not to come in contact with them, because if you do, then they do what you call "break you", they take your money....He's allowed to harass you as much as he wants. But if I don't talk back to him, them I'm cool. But if I'm "out of pockets" that means you're doing something that you aint suppose to be doing. You know some pimps will beat you or you go through a lot of stuff....They're in control. You do what they say (Sonya).
A pimp's main job is to know his prostitutes inside and out, without letting them completely know him. "A pimp is the loneliest bastard on earth. He's gotta know his whores. He can't let them know him. He's gotta be God all the way" (Slim, 1969 p.3). These fundamental rules have been handed down from older pimps to younger pimps. The names change, but the rules remain the same (Bloomfield & Juan, 1994; Milner & Milner, 1972; Owens & Shepard, 1998; Slim, 1969). For those who occupy the position of street prostitute, a life of prostitution is much more than just selling sex.
Also, check out these books for further understanding:
The 48 Laws of the Game by Pimpin' Ken
PIMP by Iceberg Slim
OH, and Gonzo.. when can I shoot her ;)
Gonzo Modeling FTW!
You coming by tonight, man?