Originally Posted by Imortyl Pussycat

he was a very, very sick individual in many ways. it's a shame he knew it all his life and never sought help. people that are struggling with inner demons and inferiority complexes can often compensate by being putting others down to make them feel superior of better about themselves. this dude needed massive therapy and meds. you tried to say it nicely and indirectly but i will say it straight up: he purposefully and carefully worded his last letter to perpetuate the emotional control he thought he had over your friend for the rest of her life and from beyond his own grave. rat bastard, at least he is at peace now and hopefully your friend seeks some counseling to process this entire event in her life from the beginning. if not, she is going to make herself loopy (just like he planned). be her friend and help her get help. when my best friend wanted my support and advice on touchy subjects, what i would do if i had something hard for her to hear is, i would say the hard to hear thing as one possible outcome or theory amongst a couple other logical sounding ideas. if she pointed to the one i really felt and believed in agreement i would then pursue that conversation further as if it was her idea first and i was backing her up. just be there for her in any way she needs and you will have done your job as her friend.