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Originally posted by Beastiepoo
I see your point, but my point is that they should have toughened up on you when they first realised that you were becoming a 'repeat offender'. Perhaps not the best words to use but I'm not sure how else to phrase it. Everything in life, especially parenting is about balance. If you have a good kid then letting them 'be naughty' now and again if it isn't going to hurt them long term. In fact it can give them self-confidence knowing that they DO have free will and can make choices themselves. If they really do something stupid the consequences will come back and bite them in the ass. If the kid is a little asshole, making a juvenile of himself/herself then sort it out and be harsh. No one wants their kid to end up in juvi just because they couldn't bring themselves to teach discipline when the signs of bad behaviours started to appear.
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I don't know...
The issue for me isn't even what she did. It's that she told him what she was going to allow for her punishment. He said you're grounded, she said you can't do that.
Personally, that wouldn't go over here at all.
As kids get older the boundaries change. That is definitely true. They can get away with stuff at the age of 15 they couldn't at age 5.
But when an established boundary is crossed, the punishment is whatever the person paying the bills decides is the punishment. Letting some kid tell you what their punishment will be is not a good precedent to be setting.