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PersianKitty · 05-09-2003, 06:05 PM

Ground her. If she were mature enough to not cut class and understand the reasons why, she wouldn't need the lesson in the first place. I know my reply.. "17 year olds don't get grounded" I'd say "17 year olds who don't cut class don't get grounded."

One nice thing about our local high school, they use a auto-dialer system to report absences from classes at school. If your child is absent, you get a computerized call about it that evening around 6:30. Also, in WA state we have something called a "Becca Bill" not sure if there is simular things in other states. If a child has 5 or more unexcused absences in a month (even if it's 1 class per day), it is reported to the county child services. The child and the parent ends up having to make an appearence in a family court to explain why he/she is absent without excuse. Usually it's taken as a parent who is not in control of the child or doesn't care.

Heck... I grounded my 18 year old two weeks ago. He still lives at home, he's still in school, he still follows the rules. He has a car and a cell phone and no part time job at this time so he does chores for gas money, etc. He has the luxury of a cell phone so he can call and check in, etc. (goodness knows I didn't have that luxury in 1979). He calls, asks to go to a friends after school. I told him to call me later around 6. He knows that he's to call if his plans change. Well, 6 rolls around...no call. I call the cell.. no responses. I call the friends house and his mother says they left 2 hours before that to go over to another friend's house. I call that friend's house... her parents (who could care less what she does) know that she left with them, but has no clue where they are. Anywhooo.. finally he calls back.. they were down at the local boardwalk. I gave him 20 minutes to drop his friends off and get home. He was grounded for a week from going anywhere other than necessary trips and from using the phone.

Some people would say "hell he's 18..leave him alone", but they don't know my son or me well enough. He may be 18, but he's an 'immature 18'. He's still got alot of growing up to do. If mom foots the bill for the car, the cell phone, the food in his mouth, the clothes on his back, he needs to have the respect. I learned that it was respectful to let my parents know what I was doing and that if plans changed, they were informed about it. If I took off and then didn't check back in with my kids when I said, etc.. they'd be worrying and calling, no different than I do.

End of story..lesson learned and I doubt it'll have to be repeated.

05-09-2003, 06:05 PM
PersianKitty Meow Media Inc. Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: In the valley of the sun, cactus, tacos, tequila, and nod Posts: 7,785	Ground her. If she were mature enough to not cut class and understand the reasons why, she wouldn't need the lesson in the first place. I know my reply.. "17 year olds don't get grounded" I'd say "17 year olds who don't cut class don't get grounded." One nice thing about our local high school, they use a auto-dialer system to report absences from classes at school. If your child is absent, you get a computerized call about it that evening around 6:30. Also, in WA state we have something called a "Becca Bill" not sure if there is simular things in other states. If a child has 5 or more unexcused absences in a month (even if it's 1 class per day), it is reported to the county child services. The child and the parent ends up having to make an appearence in a family court to explain why he/she is absent without excuse. Usually it's taken as a parent who is not in control of the child or doesn't care. Heck... I grounded my 18 year old two weeks ago. He still lives at home, he's still in school, he still follows the rules. He has a car and a cell phone and no part time job at this time so he does chores for gas money, etc. He has the luxury of a cell phone so he can call and check in, etc. (goodness knows I didn't have that luxury in 1979). He calls, asks to go to a friends after school. I told him to call me later around 6. He knows that he's to call if his plans change. Well, 6 rolls around...no call. I call the cell.. no responses. I call the friends house and his mother says they left 2 hours before that to go over to another friend's house. I call that friend's house... her parents (who could care less what she does) know that she left with them, but has no clue where they are. Anywhooo.. finally he calls back.. they were down at the local boardwalk. I gave him 20 minutes to drop his friends off and get home. He was grounded for a week from going anywhere other than necessary trips and from using the phone. Some people would say "hell he's 18..leave him alone", but they don't know my son or me well enough. He may be 18, but he's an 'immature 18'. He's still got alot of growing up to do. If mom foots the bill for the car, the cell phone, the food in his mouth, the clothes on his back, he needs to have the respect. I learned that it was respectful to let my parents know what I was doing and that if plans changed, they were informed about it. If I took off and then didn't check back in with my kids when I said, etc.. they'd be worrying and calling, no different than I do. End of story..lesson learned and I doubt it'll have to be repeated. __________________ Wondering what webmaster programs PK uses? Check them out here! Last edited by PersianKitty; 05-09-2003 at 06:10 PM..