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Originally posted by Triple 6
This is absolutely true 200%.
My parents had 3 kids. I was in the middle.
They were very strict with my sister. They had very few problems with her, and she is now a very responsible adult.
They eased up on me, and I walked all over them. In my teens I was the kid you wish you never had. Family court. Juvenile detention centers. Bad. Very bad. They went back to strict with my brother after seeing me go nuts.
I finally came around and got my shit together... but I wish I had listened to my parents when I was younger, and that I wasnt such a nightmare. I would not wish on my worst enemy having a kid act like I did in when I was growing up.
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I see your point, but my point is that they should have toughened up on you when they first realised that you were becoming a 'repeat offender'. Perhaps not the best words to use but I'm not sure how else to phrase it. Everything in life, especially parenting is about balance. If you have a good kid then letting them 'be naughty' now and again if it isn't going to hurt them long term. In fact it can give them self-confidence knowing that they DO have free will and can make choices themselves. If they really do something stupid the consequences will come back and bite them in the ass. If the kid is a little asshole, making a juvenile of himself/herself then sort it out and be harsh. No one wants their kid to end up in juvi just because they couldn't bring themselves to teach discipline when the signs of bad behaviours started to appear.