I've a short but good double opt-in list with first and last names, gender, city and country. Little less than 40,000 addresses, all women and 100,000 or so men addresses. I know is not one of those 100.000.000-double-optin lists but I'm humble, so I don't care ;) I've software to send, subscribe and unsubscribe, but my problem is that I cannot send mails due to my ISP's relay. So the question is how do I get rid of this? I thought about some kind of server side mail client, I've my own boxes so that's not a problem at all. Is this possible or is there a better/inexpensive way? Or is there a way to override my ISP's SMTP with my own server's SMTP? They've not open relay ports, just in case. Any help more than appreciated
