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Originally Posted by Nodtveidt
Perhaps. But when all else fails, an alternate point of view might come in handy. After all, she wouldn't have posted about it if she wasn't looking for ideas, right? His situation is probably not like mine was, but a wise person can read a case and see if there's any common threads, then see if any of the solutions might help. It can work, but it doesn't mean it will work. It's always worth a try though. But it's clear that his current method of escape is not conducive to their relationship. Furthermore, do we really know that he is happy with his present form of escape, or is it simply the most comfortable and accessible one for him?
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possibly, and I know you are trying to give positive advice
I know that trying to make someone change is often futile though and leads to more stress and unhappiness, than just letting it be and doing your best within yourself, perhaps the person may change a little bit on their own, but I don't think any case of trying to make a guy change and bringing in counsellors or therapists and all that bs will ever have a happy outcome