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I have been in your situation. I am adopted. I was taken from my birth mother when I was 3 months old because "someone" almost beat me to death. I spent 3 months in the hospital and then went to live with my biological mother's uncle & aunt. I eventually was adopted after all the red tape was cleared and had a wonderful childhood. I was a very lucky person to get out of the life I was born into. I recently had to contact my birth mother to get some medical history from her and the name of my biological father to get info from him as well. I had a pleasant conversation with them both and told them both that what happened was over 30 years ago and that all people make mistakes and its what they learn from them that count. Look at it this way you found a better life and even though she did give you up it probably gave you more opportunities that you would have had otherwise. It's water under the bridge. If you feel comfortable having a relationship of some sort with her then that's great. If you don't that's fine too. I think I may email my biological parents from time to time but that will probably be about it. My "real" family is here close to me and that's where my heart is and that's where my loyalty lies.
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