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Originally posted by AWW - Kevin
i'd be interested to know ( when you have kids )
what, if any believes/values you'd teach them ?
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Well, I'm not Fletch, but I am pagan, and I have a nine year old...here's what I have taught her.
Do what thou wilt, 'an it harm none. You might know this idea as "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
Hurting people is wrong. Killing people is wrong. Why? Not because Big Daddy in the sky said so, but because it is wrong to impose your will on others. I do not have the right to use force, fear, or greater might to change your path.
Lying is wrong, because without all the information you need to have, you can't make an informed decision about the choices you make.
Sex is NOT wrong, as long as all parties involved are fully informed (and that means being old enough, age-of-consent-wise) and fully understand the risks and the benefits involved in sexual activity, of whatever kind you choose. That rules out rape, incest, kids, animals, etc...but if my kid grows up and decides that she wants to be lesbian/bi/wear a wetsuit and a viking helmet while she does it with midget clowns -- I will happily support her decision.
She's growing up in a poly household, BTW -- and she knows my lovers, loves them like they were family -- and she has a harder time understanding monogamy as it is practiced in our culture than she does with poly. She thinks that adults behaving the way they do over sex -- lying to their partners, cheating, hurting and killing each other over relationships -- is the stupidest thing ever. During one talk about this, she looked at me and said, "Geez, Mama, I learned to share when I was a little kid. What's their problem?"
My other favorite comment of hers was when I started to try to explain Christianity...I started out with the basics. "Well, babe, they believe in only one god."
"Really? Which one?"
As far as I can tell, she's growing up a well-adjusted, smart, very cool little person...I see the way her Christian-raised friends regularly behave, and it saddens me. Besides, she wants to be Goth...there is no bad here.
