We have created a Simple and Free Program to verify reciprocal links. It is easy to install, simply upload and add your sites to the database configuration file. If there is a larger demand, we will continue to develop this free tool. The Free Recip Link Checker checks the sites for your reciprocal link html, and displays the results while noting sites which have expired based on the dates you have entered.
The zip file contains a setup help file, pretty straightforward. Feel free to contact me if you run into any problems.
adultinterface.com/FreeTools/RecipCheck.zip