Here's the thing - most of the people who discuss sexual preferences as nature, nurture or choice are not familiarized with the LGBT community and don't even know the huge spectrum there is.
There's a lot of assumptions regarding if a young boy has feminine manerisms, then they'll be gay... a lot about how "born in the wrong body" makes you gay, about hormones... but that is not the case.
I've met very heterosexual extraordinarily effeminate guys, I've met transgender males who like girls and I've met very manly gay guys. I've met perfectly heterosexual guys who grew up in a hair salon and happy estable families with gay sons and lesbian daughters. It is a very complicated thing and it's not the same for everyone.
From published research and talking to a lot of gay people:
- GENES determine if you will be truly attracted to a given gender (your own or your opposite) in an animalistic sense of the word - who can you mate with and feel it as the right choice? who are you able to truly love? There's been studies about this. It comes down to how chemicals in the brain act and how they act is determiend from birth.
- CROMOSOMES will give you a female or male body, or something in the middle (a much higher percentage than people think)
- HORMONES will make you develop GENERAL physical or behavioral characteristics - such as having little or a lot of hair, and liking rough sports or enjoying peace and quiet.
- LEFT AND RIGHT BRAIN will make you a sensitive and artsy person or not.
- FATHER/MOTHER FIGURES will make you develop a personality and needs, occassionally missing a father will spurt the need for a male in your life thus making you seek it... other times it will make you adopt said figure on yourself.
- ENVIRONMENT will develop manerisms and likes - there ARE heterosexual hairdressers
And finally:
- TRAUMA kids who are bullied, sexual abuse as a child, negative parental figures... either can push you away from a given gender or make you feel you "MUST" be attracted to another one whether you're actually "coded" to be attracted to them or not.
A combination of all of this is what determines the sexuality of a person... some are coded to like guys, some like girls and some like both... and then comes the behavioral conditions, nurture and trauma. In the end, you just are what you can be.
In short:
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Originally Posted by DirtyWhiteBoy
I think some are born gay, some turn gay (for many reasons) and some try it just because they have done everything else and want to try something new. I mean, how do you know you don't like it until you try it?
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I am a bisexual woman, and I have been deeply in love with females even if I am engaged to a guy now... I did not choose to be bi because it's fashionable, I have never put on a show for the attention and I never felt it was cool since many bisexuals are ostracized by both the gay and straight communities - yet I can't help liking guys and girls. And I'm happy, it gives me the chance to appreciate beauty everywhere.
And I'll stop before I start ranting about the bi myths