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Originally Posted by polish_aristocrat
I guess this happened to you then?
Hard to answer how I'd react, but I don't think I'd be blaming myself for bad judgment of character... well... perhaps if had been spending every second day with that guy for 7 years, then yes.
But really, you often can't look through someone's character and see what's deep inside there.
You shouldn't be judging your current friends in a bad way based on this experience....
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Thanks for the reply...
No, I didnt spend every day with the guy for seven years... But, being brutally honest and truthful... Thats because he was gay...
He wasn't a 'flaming' gay... But he was very honest that he was gay from day 1...
This was itself not a problem to me, in the least... I am not gay, and he knew that, yet I had no problem with his sexuality at all...
Infact, I knew he was into 'Younger Guys'... He had just turned thirty, but swore blind he was 25... And he used to 'sorta tell me' (Because I didnt really want to know) about 18 and 19 'Twinks' he had met, or was going to meet on hollywood boulevard, or sunset strip etc...
I was very much 'live and let live' and also very open minded, so the fact he was gay, and was meeting men, didnt bother, or interest me in the least... I FOCUSED ALL MY ATTENTION (OR SO I THOUGHT) On our 'normal' day to day / male to male 'hetro' relationship...
All good and cool... In other words, I didnt give a shit he was gay... He knew I WASNT gay... So that aside... We just hung out... And became real good friends...
Then, I discover hes been had up for 'kiddy fiddling'... Not just one charge, but multiple charges...
Turns out that during the time I was hanging with him, and calling him a friend... He had also been out doing shocking, disgusting things....
AND I HAD NO IDEA... I feel sick to my stomach at the news...
SICK AS A DOG...
But now... Im looking at my UK friends with suspicion, and its doing my head in.....
Anyway, Im off to bed now... Its half 1 in the morning in the UK and I'll check in this thread again tomorrow...
Any advice, greatly appreciated... I just need help in coming to terms with the fact that someone I really cared about,
TRUSTED and called a friend...
Could have been doing such SICK FUCKING SHIT BEHIND MY BACK !