Ok .. sorted it out
Iphones don't have a flash player and CAN NOT watch Adobe flash streaming ..Adobe is in negotiations with them but Apple will not release the SDK to them so they can create a proper flash player .... I am not sure but i don't think you can download video to them either .. they are designed to get video from your computer via your itunes link ... you can down load all vids to your comp and then use any number of converters to change them to whatever format you want to play them on ..just found this free one you might be interested in ..
http://www.download.com/Free-iPod-Vi....html?hhTest=1
these phones are not what I was hoping they would be ..