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Originally Posted by Halcyon
It isn't up to you to judge someone's happiness based on their circumstances. And it wouldn't be my place to tell them one way or the other.
But we are never in a position to judge if we are in advance or retreat.
In your examples, it might have taken the loss of limbs to finally grasp the blessings they have.
The ability to walk does not make you happy. Nor does wealth.
Perhaps losing those things can be the "valley of darkness" that leads you to see true joy.
Obviously this is easier said than done.
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Again, this is coming from someone who perhaps has no major regrets. And again it's easy to say this cliche stuff when you're in that situation. I am sure this guy might have one major regret
http://archive.seacoastonline.com/20...2joel_home.jpg for instance. For you to say 'he should make the most of it' 'realise the blessing of what he has left' etc is really is just a load of rubbish if you ask me. From my opinion from talking to people who've lost the use of their legs, etc (I used to work in the disability/medical industry) it's very very sad.
Many try to look on the bright side of things, some succeed, but generally as the years drag on and the reality sets in, desperation, frustration and often depression sink in and hit most pretty hard. Think about never going to a club again, never being able to just walk into a store and grab something, never being able to go paint balling on the weekend with your friends, never being able to hit on a girl you like because of your hangups, etc etc. It's not something that leads many people to see true joy, more often it leads them to see our unforgiving and hurtful life can be.