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Originally Posted by Kelli58
Well "My ex is a nutcase" is not going to work. You need to be able to prove that you have a stable home, are able to provide for all of his needs. Keep a detailed log (with dates and times) of any mistakes she makes including being late for picking up the child, forgetting medicines, ANYTHING you can think of that will discredit her ability as a parent.
Do you have a job? Great. Is it better than hers? Note that.
Do you have health insurance for the child? Does she? Whose is better?
Where is the child's doctor? If their main medical care is where you live, establish that.
If you live in a house and she an apartment or tailer that helps. They like stable homes.
If she does drugs and you don't, volunteer (on the spot) for random drug tests, knowing she can't refuse will make you look better.
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Okay, she has several professional people who she sees. A bureau for alcohol abuse, a shrink and another 'helper'. She's 26 now, has seen these sorts of people for 14 years.
I have a house (I own it), she lives in my old appartment. Thing is: We only went out for 2,5 years, she came live with me so it was logic that we took my doctor as it is across the street. It is not her doctor also. Will it help if I sign up for a doctor's office for him and me here? He's in my Health care plan, but in the Netherlands that is all pretty much the same.
I have a steady income for the past 5-6 years, she goes to school and works as a waitress on the side, every now and then.
She's very much in dept and can NOT take care of her self, moneywise.
We actually picked out this house together because it was a better environment for our child. A week or two before our move, she told me she'd rather stay at my old appartment.
I actually thought about that drugtest too, as i know she does coke regularly. I never took (hard)drugs.
Any more tips?