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Originally Posted by Dcat
I disagree. That's called "loyalty" ... it may be a positive trait of a real friend, but not what defines a real friend. A REAL friend WILL call you out on your actions regardless of the consequences. A real friend is someone who wants to see your growth over their self serving interests.
Someone who is NOT a real friend is usually just hanging around to see what value they can extract from you or the relationship. A sure fire way to spot them is the way they try to make nice of every situation as to not upset or jeopardize the relationship.
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I agree.
Many years ago one of my female friends who had moved "back home" to Montana suddenly announced she was getting married. When I finally had the chance to meet him I was stunned - He was overweight, not attractive, had no job, and no future. He was nothing more than a funny drunk; He got off the plane and was hammered. I was the only one who spoke up and said anything. My wife and I were asked to be in the wedding party; My wife was a bridesmaid and I declined.
Six months later she suddenly showed up on my doorstep without warning, saying she needed help. She needed to put her life back together while she filed for divorce.
A true friend will tell you the truth instead of sugarcoating things.
BTW.... The chick I'm taking about ended up getting married to a great guy, and I am her son's Godfather.