Originally Posted by chadknowslaw

I have been sober for over 9 years. I was one FUCKED UP alcoholic. I have been going to meetings ever since and seen many many many people come and go into the program. Most do not stay clean or sober. With 9 years sober, I am one of the lucky ones that made it this far.

It has been my experience that interventions do NOT work. An intervention means that the friends and family are ready for the addict to quit; it does not mean the _addict_ is ready to quit. Interventions usually result in hard feelings HOWEVER it does get the addict to start thinking about it. The intervention probably won't work, but it might speed up his realization that he has hit bottom.

You are not in a good spot. I think the best way to show an addict how much you care is to push them away from you. An intervention may not get the addict to agree to get into treatment but it gives the friends and family the opportunity to say "We love you but we just cannot be around you when you are using". That is what really needs to happen -- ALL means of support need to be removed so that the only choice left and that is to get clean and sober.