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Originally Posted by SpeakEasy
Personally the fact that you had to have a court order to support your kids puts you in the scum category for me. Then instead of working a 2nd or 3rd job and making the money that they NEED and deserve to live on your posting about it on GFY....  Things that make you go hummmmmmm |
Everybody gets a court order for child support.... Like I said I was making sure my kid had everything she needed during those MONTHS before the court order was in place. You obviously don't have a clue how these things work. Even the payments I made by CHECK the court wouldn't "credit" me for so what I gave in the form of money, food, clothing wasn't even factored in when they gave me a bill for back child support. When you have BACK child support they give you a bill for what you owe each month and then an additional "arrears" number which is how much EXTRA you're supposed to be paying each month to work down on the total.
About the time I had the cash to completely pay off the back support the divorce settlement came in and she received basically all of my CASH, I kept my business, the house (which I didn't want but she didn't want the monthly bill, was on the market for 6mnths and couldn't sell to even break even) and also the car that had the most owed on it I also got stuck with.
She got basically all my cash + toys and had emptied most of the valuables out of the house when I wasn't living here. She ended up with tons of assets and I got stuck with all the bills and debt.
She never worked a day the entire time we were married. My lawyer advised me to just take the deal because he believed I'd get stuck paying alimony which in the long run going all the way through in court would have cost me so much more (then way more in lawyer fees)
I sure as hell can't be a deadbeat dad when she got all my money/valuables in the divorce and I had been paying the monthly amount but simply was struggling with getting caught up.