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Originally Posted by kirupai
Peer pressure definitely a bitch, there is really no way to avoid it. But here is the thing, lets say you had a 12 year old girl, all her friends have belly piercing, dress way to slutty etc etc one day she gets home and tells you she wants a belly piercing. Im sure I would of said no and made sure she didnt get one period.
Now this neighbors daughter isnt hiding the fact she has a belly piercing and that she wears clothes that I wouldnt let my daughter wear at that age, so her parents are aware of it and have to be somewhat ok with it, which I guess bothers me a bit.
Then again its their kid and I wont tell them how to raise her, specially since I dont have kids. Its just something it got me thinking.
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If my daughter was friends' with so and so that dressed this way... it's really tough, because you want them to have quality friends.. but you don't want to treat your kids with a military hand and say you will never!!! blah blah...
You tell them that they have to live by certain standards and that they should understand just because little Cindy down the street lives differently.. it doesn't mean our rules are bad.. they are just different.
Now the hard part is little Cindy will put pressure on your daughter to conform... that's where your kid has to stand up to it... or fold to it. and how do you react to that?
This isn't just belly piercings and cropped shirts... It's sexy clothing, lingerie, piercings, tattoos, drinking, smoking, making out with the boys.. testing bi-sexuality with the girls... etc etc etc.... You have to talk with your kids all the time!!!!! Talk to them about how strong they need to be. Getting hooked on something when you are 12 is different than testing something when you are 18.. or 25.
I didn't start drinking until I was 27. I do it occasionally now. Had I picked it up when I was 14.. I would most likely be a raging alki by now.
You have to help your kids understand that adolescence is a very hard time and they have to know what's right and wrong and stand up to it and as they say... just say no. They don't have to judge others.. but they must be in control of themselves.