To me its all very simple: groups of people who have 'pride events', or memory days or whatever you want to call it i.e. remembering the holocaust, martin luther king day, or even gay pride parade just means that every and each of these groups had to fight their way up somehow to be seen equal in front of a majority (mostly white). These days, events are just to remember how fucking low we used to be as a society to judge who should be slaved, killed or seen like a lower 'specie', and that this should never be the same again. I respect a group who has suffered in their history and are now seen as equal.
White people have their history/pride days and moments as well; its not because we havent been as persecuted that we dont have that. I think most ppl tend to see that as 'whining' more then remembering and being proud.
Calling someone 'whitey' doesnt imply that he/she's been into slavery and therefore isnt exactly a lack of respect. The person is white, its a fact. If you call a Black person N*gger, you imply the old slavery language that they used to endure and that's a lack of respect.
Just my
