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well the whole point of the size acceptance community is accepting yourself regardless of your size. It doesn't always mean not realising that you may need to drop some weight to be a bit healthier but it means not hating yourself because of that.
BBW does indeed have two 'B's but who are any of us to say that that a person isn't beautiful to someone. Most BBWs..or large women in general grew up being told by everyone with a voice that they were ugly, no one would ever fancy them and so on.
BBW and the BBW community has be come a catchall term for big women who have begun to realise that there are indeed men and women that find 'their type' attractive.
The first 'B' comes with a positive self image. It comes with holding your head up and walking tall down the street rather than puttin your head down and hoping not to be noticed.
I have seen hundreds of women go through the stages of becomming a BBW. It almost always starts with them hating themselves..thinking they are worthless as a human being - because they have been told that all their lives. Then once they are 'shown the light' they gradually progress to taking pride in their looks, buying nice clothing, getting a nice hair style and then from there they get the attitude that makes them a BBW.
I was lucky, I discovered the BBW community way back when I was 14 or 15 WHEN i discovered the BBW magazine - which is why I know that is where it came from.
In high school I tried not to be noticed, I hated myself. Now, 11 years on I know damn well that I make some men and women weak at the knees when they see my pics. I also know full well that my 'type' has the exact opposite effect on other people. The trick is not caring about those people and saving your efforts for the admirers.
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