it's honestly not that big of a deal to me. i would much rather have an awesome relationship with minimal sex as opposed to a shitty relationship with lots of it. besides, why would i want to sleep with someone who i secretly think is an asshole in an on-going relationship (fine for a one night stand but to have to spend time with them outside of the bedroom would drive me up the wall)?
as a result, the most important things (to me) in a relationship are: loyalty, faith, kindness, empathy, sensitivity, trust, etc. the more intimate parts of a relationship are definitely enjoyable and desirable but not so much without awesome non-intimate aspects.