OK, I wanna be honest... Your first site has one of the crappiest designs I have seen in a long time. Although the flash animation in the header of sexbirthdaygift.com is not that bad, you need a big and catchy logo. The overall design looks amateurish and you definitely don't have enough join links up there.
Oh, and that FHG here:
http://fhg.sexbirthdaygift.com/fgal1...al1/index.html
You gotta be kidding, right? So, get a good des.... Nah, let's say get someone who deserves to be called a designer, and then we'll talk again
Good luck anywayz - content looks good aswell as the idea is nice, but please, get a good design!