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Originally Posted by kane
I'm sure a guy like Dr. Drew who has spent years and years working with people who have addiction and emotional problems really doesn't know what he is talking about.
You are right, we are all individuals, but in the end most people are just part of the herd. I don't mean that in a bad way (so to speak) I just mean that there are certain things that are true most of the time with people. For example they will have someone call in who has chaos in their life and can't stay in a relationship and almost every time that person suffered some kinds of abuse. After a while patterns emerge. When Dr. Drew says something about someone it is because the evidence points to that being the case. It is the old " if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's a duck" idea. There are some cases where these blanket statements don't apply, but for the most part he is almost always right.
As for the threesomes. I would say there is about a 95% chance it will end your relationship. There are a very small number of people who can separate sex from emotion, but not very many. In the end there will be questioning and jealousy and it will lead to a demise in the relationship.
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more evolved people don't need to follow these same herd-like patterns
some of my best and longest relationships were open and threesomes and/or swinging was never the cause of our problems - people in monogamous relationships still cheat and instead lie about it which ends the relationship - the real point of everything is relationships END - and people are starting to realize that nothing lasts forever - when you are unhappy in a relationship, yes, it makes more sense to move on instead of staying with someone your whole life who you're miserable with...
As the world and humans continue to evolve there will be more sexual openness, less traditional relationships, more non-conventional situations - monogamy is not natural to humans - it is based on cultural norms - it is not natural and ultimately will be wiped out and become an oddity in society. Already being sexually open is much more accepted then 50 years ago. This is where we are headed - pyschology is based on the norms of the day - remember when homosexuality was supposed to be a mental illness? If Dr Drew were 50 years older he would have been one of the guys spouting that line. Times are a'changing - threesomes and moresomes are good fun and there's nothing but invisible barriers in your mind that are stopping you from enjoying life to it's fullest.
