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Originally Posted by LadyMischief
You can't hold something she did before you against her. A lot of couples have sex after they are no longer together because it is a known factor.... it's really not an unusual thing. Don't miss out on a good thing over a silly personal thing that really has no realistic bearing on your relationship with her now.
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you can argue that ANYTHING has "no realistic bearing on the relationship with her now" ... but thats purely subjective reasoning. people look for signs and red flags based on their own experience and their own needs in a relationship contrasted against the type of relationship they are looking for. past behavior is the single best predictor of future behavior.
you can argue that her having a crack pipe in her purse means nothing because you didn't see her smoking crack. the list of arguments can go on forever.
at the end of the day, all you can do is ask yourself "am i comfortable with this" because there is no simple, black and white, one size fits all, answer. if the answer is "yes, absolutely!" carry on.. if the answer is "no, not really" then the faster you move on, the better it will be for everyone.