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Originally Posted by CDSmith
A bit of a dismal view, but essentially correct in a general kind of way I suppose.
I have however met some pretty caring and kind, giving women over the years who think of others and the needs of others before their own, but in general I'd say that what you just said applies to a good many people
As for how what you said applies to this situation, one could be inclined to say that the very act of availing oneself of the availability of their ex for convenient "safe" gratification of their urges is in itself very selfish. While others would say it would be stupid NOT to, I find the space between those two views to be miles long and frankly, quite amusing. :D
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i dont think its dismal at all. i think it is what it is. "to love" as a verb means basically means nothing more than treating someone in a certain way to elicit a response from that person which gives YOU a feeling of safety and security in the relationship... and to cause them to become emotionally dependent on you
i think that "loving someone" is nothing more than manipulation for selfish reasons. of course, its a bit like calling a retarded kid retarded. its not acceptable or politically correct and no doubt, anyone would read that and react with defensive remarks.... but the facts do not change, no matter how we want to dress them up or romanticize them. at the end of the day, we are just baboons trying to get by in life and convince ourselves that we aren't baboons.