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Originally Posted by Pleasurepays
personally, i always find relationships and peoples views on relationships to be very interesting. you would think that people would kinda have it figured out after 10-20 million years... but anywhere you look, there isn't much evidence to support that notion.
as with any living organism, we are all selfish. everything we do from morning to night is selfish in nature. relationships are selfish in nature. they are about fulfilling selfish needs under the guise of "love", "finding love" etc. often, those needs are very unhealthy, yet we have no problem convincing ourselves that its ok or rationalizing that our behaviors/relationships are normal. that to me, explains the different views. i think that for the most part, everyone is more trying to validate their own feelings/behaviors/insecurities/paranoia more than they are trying to step back and just take an honest, objective, complete look at the situation.
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A bit of a dismal view, but essentially correct in a general kind of way I suppose.
I have however met some pretty caring and kind, giving women over the years who think of others and the needs of others before their own, but in general I'd say that what you just said applies to a good many people.
As for how what you said applies to this situation, one could be inclined to say that the very act of availing oneself of the availability of their ex for convenient "safe" gratification of their urges is in itself very selfish. While others would say it would be stupid NOT to, I find the space between those two views to be miles long and frankly, quite amusing. :D