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Originally Posted by CDSmith
I also find that there are people who aren't looking for those little red flags that should be, and there are many who are so distrusting they are overly looking to find fault and causes for concern at every turn.
Being single and dating really is a chess match of sorts.
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personally, i always find relationships and peoples views on relationships to be very interesting. you would think that people would kinda have it figured out after 10-20 million years... but anywhere you look, there isn't much evidence to support that notion.
as with any living organism, we are all selfish. everything we do from morning to night is selfish in nature. relationships are selfish in nature. they are about fulfilling selfish needs under the guise of "love", "finding love" etc. often, those needs are very unhealthy, yet we have no problem convincing ourselves that its ok or rationalizing that our behaviors/relationships are normal. that to me, explains the different views. i think that for the most part, everyone is more trying to validate their own feelings/behaviors/insecurities/paranoia more than they are trying to step back and just take an honest, objective, complete look at the situation.