Buy this software for $45
http://www.sothink.com/product/flash...oder/index.htm
It'll encode the videos and make the embed code and you just upload the .swf and .fla to your site, then put the embed code onto your page. It's nice for small amounts of flash videos.
Edit: I made all these flash vids with that program and serve it all on my server.
http://www.kaporn.com/hd_interracial/hd.cfm