Don't hit or bash kids in public, because they get embarrassed too. You can take them outside to the car and spank their little ass when they act up. Mental mean words, no. You want to build your kids self esteem, but a spank on the ass IMO is needed more today. I can't stand parents who sit there and say, oh now let me talk to you about being bad and explain why it is bad. HELLO? They are kids. They don't care, it's fun. If you love them get control because when they are 13 or 14 they will be out the window in the middle of the night with God knows who screwing God know what.
Spankings do work if you don't use them all the time. There needs to be a last draw they understand. The world is tough, make strong kids. Mommie and Daddie aren't going to be able to hold their hand through life, so if you start when they are young the better chance THEY have at life. And that is what parents want, right?
But I do love the way you threw that agenda in the title, mental and physical ABUSE.
Spanking are not abuse, abuse is when you hurt/harm something. Spankings don't do anything but sting the booty a little.
