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Unfortunately there is nothing that can change that litle punk. Exerting "tough love" will just make him think his own family hates him and don't care. Talking only bores punks. It all boils down to his friends. Get him away from his punk ass friends. I've know kids that were doing pot, and only pot, and still stealing and doing other stupid stuff. It's not about addicition. It's about a lifestyle he has along with his peers. If he had no pot smoking friends to smoke with, he wouldn't need pot. Thus wouldn't need to steal money to buy pot. I bet none of his friends have jobs or intellectual abilities beyond that of a stale carrot. When a person hangs with stupid or otherwise lazy sons-a-bitches, THAT person becomes one. No matter how smart he is. Get him out of that vicious circle. Get him involved with your peers if you can. Show him what you do for hobbies. Get him into "the biz". Do anything. Just don;t force him. Ask him if he would liek to help you with this or that. Ask if he would liek to come along with you to there or over there. etc etc.
He does needs help, but not tough love. Tough love just made ME hate my mom more. And I've seen tough love cases in my peers as a teen get worse. 75 percent of those dealt tough love while I knew them are now in jail doing 5-25 years depending on the crime they commited. He needs to be included in a circle of decent people that are "fun" to be with, but not "crazy".
Reminds me of a friend of mine that I was living with at his parents for a few years. His parents caught him stealing many times, shoplifting, stealing rent money, stealing stereos from his dad to pawn, etc etc. They tried letting to cops handle it, he had court apearances, probation, threats of jail time etc etc. All it did was give him something to talk about to his loser friends who think jail is cool and that cops are pigs. He thought it was "COOL". So then they tried ignoring the problem. Instead it made him do things tryign to cry out for attention. Then they tried helping him and getting him to a doctor. He was good for a few months. Only because he was heavily sedated with ritalin. They blamed his activities on ADHD, which in my opinion is an excuse for being an idiot. Then he started his stealing again once he got used to the drugs and he didn't have that constant "high" feeling anymore. So they they exerted tough love and kicked him out. He got his own place, thoguth his parents didnt love him anymore because he wasent allowed in their hosue with constant supervision. SO he starts steeling , doing heavy drugs, drinking, stealing shit out of cars. They he started doing B&E's. Started doing coke. Started Shooting up. $ years later he has been in jail more than out. In 4 years he did 3.5 years tiome for stealing, drugs, evading arrest, giving false ID, beating cops, attempted murders. EVERYTHING. All because nobody in his family included him in anything. All he wanted was to hang with his bro and sis. And tehy would just shrug him off because they thought he just wanted tos teal from him. All he wanted was to be included when they went out with friends, HE just wanted to be included in teh whole "internet boom" his family was going through. But nobody would let him use a pc in fear that he would break it or steal components.
I am sure that if he was brought into a better crowd and included in family member's personal lives. He would not have turne dout teh way he is now. He used to be included, but he got in shit a few tiems, and they didnt know how to help him.
I hope this advice helps some.
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