Originally Posted by KrisKross

Donny, I've been in your shoes before. I've been heartbroken. My boyfriend of nearly five years left me for another girl after I found out he'd been cheating on me. This is a man I loved with all my heart, someone I fully expected to marry and spend my life with. We lived together and worked on a few online projects together.

For months, I was devastated. Bitter, deceived, angry, hurt, jealous, you name it. There'd be phone calls, emails, journal entries, etc. Often, I'd call him with the excuse of dealing with "leftover business"... some sites, mail addressed to him, belongings he left, etc. But once that issue was handled, the call would quickly degrade to "How the fuck could you do this to me?" or "Why can't we give it a second chance?". There were calls from him too. Sometimes, he'd call or email. He'd tell me he was unhappy with her, that he missed me, that he was sorry. Sometimes, I was stupid enough to meet up with him. I'd get all dressed, do my make up, do my hair, thinking he'd want me back. Instead, we'd just fuck and he'd drive me home.

After months and months of depression and erratic behaviour, my friends finally had enough. They refused to stop seeing me until I cut off all contact with him. They promised to do anything they could until he was out of my life.

Slowly, I stopped the phone calls, emails, blog entries, etc. I ignored all his contact attempts. I didn't read his emails and I deleted his voice mails. I even went so far as to block his blog using parental controls. All letters to him went in the garbage. Any affiliate accounts we used together were transferred under his name or canceled. All domains were transferred to him. All belongings he left were trashed.

It took two months before this was all done. And it was hard as hell. But once he finally stopped calling, I felt free. I felt amazing. This was a few years ago. Sure, I still think about him. And sometimes, I still feel a little bitter or nostalgic. But it no longer controls my life. And you know what? Recently, we ran in to each other at an event. We were civil and even chit-chatted for a while. He added me to his MSN a couple of days later and now we talk from time to time. We'll never be best friends and we'll never get back together, but we can at least be friendly with each other.

So just write this girl out of your life. Cut off all contact with her. Stop trying to be the good guy. Move on. Time WILL heal all wounds.