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Originally Posted by BlackCrayon
as for sabotaging the relationship, possibly but then you must consider all people in polyamorous type relationships sabotaging themselves.
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No, I don't consider them all sabotaging themselves. It's not a 'black and white' situation. I know couples that swing or are in polyamorous relationships and it's all hunky dory - their relationships are stable, everyone gets along, there's no jealousy.
His case was special - the other two let him know that they didn't want to go ahead with it, he pushed 'the idea' on them more than once, insisting it was an 'adults' game' and he had 'grown' to the level where he was comfortable/good with it - when in fact, his insecurities were only going to be heightened by it.
Anyhow - I hope he has the right mind to get help and to stop contacting them. He should be focusing on what he has that is positive.
His behaviour sure won't bring her back to him so he best use his energies on love for his son rather than continue to harass two people. As it stands there is nothing to gain from his behavior - he's not healing, he's not learning where he went wrong, he's not moving on. He's just paving the path to making things worse for himself.
GET HELP, Donny.