danielle, when you are ready to re-launch your site, check out my dot-bomb service coming back for adult:
http://www.myNaughtyMessages.com easy way to add audio content to your website using your cellphone.. to record messages when not at your computer, or to just record stories and thoughts without having to mess with microphone, digitizing, uploading, and linking.
Solo girl sites are a dime a dozen as you have observed, but they can do well, depending on some factors:
1) traffic - you need exposure.. if surfers can't find you, that can't be fans. do some networking like at the shows, on the boards, on icq... webmasters have various forms of traffic and you could make some deals with them.
2) content- need to keep updating content. a member who joins your site means he is focused on you. adding continual daiily/weekly content will keep them coming back and rebilling. features like myNaughtyMessages allows you to do like a voice diary, sharing your thoughts. The more you share with the fan, the more of a connection they have towards you.
3) interractions - answer emails, post up what you are doing, etc. fans are memberes to your site because they have a fascination with you.
steps #2 and #3 may seem like obvious answers, but this is where most will end up failing..
step #1 is both easy and hard to get. traffic is in abundance, but you also want the "right" traffic, ones that are looking to buy, instead of just freeload.
you might be able to interract with other solo girl sites.. talk to them about having them email their cancelled members about another solo girl site. it may sound like competition, but its now. if the cancelled member wanted to come back to the solo girl site, he could at any moment.
the solo girl has qualified members who have cancelled.. they should be promoting other solo girl sites as an affiliate and earn money from the cancelled members.
hope this helps...
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