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Originally Posted by Cristie
The situation is: A good couple is expecting a child. She can't do sex with him because of the fisical problems. For about half of her pregnancy and 2 months after.
What are the most expected actions from the man: will he go find a prostitute or lover or masturbate or he will be fine without sex for more than half a year.
Your thoughts. What would you do?
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sorry Cristie - but give it a fucking break !!
my wife and I just had our first child Dec 7 2006 - and there is one word that the male needs to realize and that is 'sacrifice'. If he is screaming that he needs sex or he'll die - then let him. If any man isn't strong enough to do without sex while his wife is about to give birth, then she should start looking around for a real man. Whats next for him? If she gets sick and can't perform he threatens with having an affair? That's complete bullshit.
A man can go a long time without sex - months if he has too even years - he is too selfish if he can't hold it in his pants while she is going through the most painful and wonderful time of their marriage and her life - giving birth to a child. A man needs to be aware that he will be lower in priorities - but that does not give him the right to go out and screw around - this is his child and he has to learn self discipline. Both parents need to know that now the child comes first before either one of them.
My wife fortunately has taken time to help out in certain ways as I have with her through mutual stimulation so that both of us are looked after - but this is not the time for either one of us - this is baby time - sleep etc. must be sacrificed in order to look after it. The wife needs as much sleep and peace around her or the milk will go sour in her breasts, threatening her with having an affair will only add more stress to the mom and baby indirectly. Tell him to grow up, be a man and realize that now as a father, the sun doesn't rise and fall to either of them anymore.