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Usually parents don't give their kids the boot unless there are some underlying problems. It's a tough time for parent and son or daughter because the son or daughter are legally adults, but the parent still needs them to follow some basic 'rules of the house'.
As for me..after 4 years in college I was back home with my parents less than two months... (the time it took me to find a job, a new car, and an apartment). I never found a need to move back for any reason after that.
I'm sure I'll face the same things in the coming years. I have an 18 year old son at home right now. He's completing his senior year in high school. He has a few ideas of what he wants to do after he graduates, but I know he's in no way ready to face the 'real world' all on his own. Does that mean I've not done my job? I don't think so.. there's alot of underlying things in our past that's made his self-esteem, etc develop a bit slower. Am I planning to boot him out? Not any time soon... but after he graduates if he sits on his butt all day and doesn't do anything, we'll have to come to terms. If he finds a job he can live on and chooses to blow his paychecks rather than contribute or save for his own place, we'll have to come to terms there also. If he's respectful, contributing, etc.. then I have no problem with him staying.
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