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Originally Posted by shannmarie
The pregnancy, protection, STD thing is easy to approach. I don't think I've collected my thoughts quite well before I threw this out there. The objective is no problem. I guess what I'm really asking, is, DO YOU GUYS EVER MENTION ANYTHING ABOUT THE INDUSTRY? I'm sure, you may think I'm a space cadet... but the truth is, I don't know, and that's why I ask.
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Maybe it's just too late at night, but I'm not understanding what the industry has to do with 'the birds & the bees discussion' with a child?
If they saw something they weren't supposed to, I explain that the internet is a huge ocean of information that they as children, teenagers, even young adults cannot always understand. Understanding comes with development, maturity or experience - hence why they should only be searching for stuff that is age appropriate. I throw in that if they have questions, they should be asking an adult they trust. The net is not developed enough to know when a child, a teenager, or an adult is asking the question, hence why their parents should be using some sort of blocker. I also let them know they should be doing searches for academic stuff. Their parents are who should be answering the vitally important questions and they should always feel like they can talk to them - if not them then another adult that can be the bridge between the two (but their parents should always be advised).
I give the 'dangers online' discussion to anyone with a connection. My son had the talk the moment he learned what 'MSN' was.
1) Not everything is what it seems
2) Never give your details on the net
3) Don't chat with people you don't know in person
4) Don't assume your friend 'Joe' is the same 'Joe' who's writing to you online
5) Unless you're of legal age or advising your parents, you don't post pictures online
6) You never go 'meet' with people you think you know on the net.
7) Not everyone is who they pretend to be
8) If anyone says anything to you that makes you feel remotely uncomfortable, threatening or that you know I'd blow a fuse over - save the chat/email and call me immediately.
9) If I really want to - I can read all your chats (it normally makes them more aware of what they say LMAO)
Regarding the 'Sex' talk - kids should not feel uncomfortable asking nor should you feel uncomfortable replying. I've never been asked something that I got uncomfortable with - but I have always either been with a group of women (where one daughter was asking the question) or with my spouse, in the case of my son.
However, I think if I'd ever have a question I'd be stuck on, I'd tell him that I need the proper terminology and that I'd research it and get back to him on it.