hahahahahah......man this place cracks me up how brutal it is on people with good intentions.
NaughtyMiami, maybe somebody will give you some good advice in this thread but it's going to get lost in a lot more 'go fuck yourself' type replies. There are many places which will link you regardless of your traffic count as long as you have a quality site and meet their rules.
Go to
http://www.adultnetsurprise.com and look for Greenguy's chatboard, you will get good help there.
Since you haven't been running any adult sites for a long time, go here
http://www.vnwr.com it will get you up to speed.
also Tom's Newbie Booster board.