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I think one of the hard things about relationships these days is we all live with such a limited amount of time. Relationships demand lots of it. This business tends to consume a lot even though its the ideal auto pilot kind of life, most of us love hanging online and allocating time galore to GFY and other cool spots. So our girlfriends sit there looking at us saying ok enough already with the online shit how about some time for me. I know I had that happen in my 2nd marriage towards the end.
Anyway my last major one was 14 years long, and we still are friends since we have a fantastic kid together and try to make the best of it for his sake. But its not easy when you have a child cause inside you kind of just wish you could go on and not have to interact so much with someone who you know no longer desires you and you no longer desire them. So it becomes kind of like a "family" relationship and that keeps it intact. You can't get jealous when they sit there talking about their new love life and you say yours.
I've been married twice. First one in my 20's was really a dumb move where I thought this is the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. We got married without really talking in depth on all the subjects you need to when you do get hitched to someone. Like when do you want to start having kids and shit like that.
My first wife's personality post saying I do was radically different than when we were just fiances. It was a remarkable instant transformation and our personalities started to clash from all the day in day out routine stuff that comes into play when you get married. I was working in the corporate world and just starting to make some good bucks. She couldn't handle all the time I had to devote to my job. Usually at work by 7 and not home til 8 at night. I worked my way up to VP Sales fast and that kind of deal you are always out with clients and stuff. She couldn't deal with it and thought I was going out on her, which I never did. Started calling the office and asking my secretary to keep tabs on me and spying stuff like I'd see her in the car watching me come out from work. It got really bizarre. We were divorced in 24 months.
Second marriage was great, but she was a spender and even though I did really well I always felt like if the money wasn't there to the extent it was she would have left me for another guy with bucks. She got fucked up after we had a kid and she couldn't deal with all the mom routines and getting older and the lifestyle change you go into when you have a family. Still she was and will always be the love of my life. But everything has a beginning and everything has an ending and thats just how life works sadly.
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