it's not that good but it will make it possible for you to send/recieve links again till icq (hopefully) solves the problem.
the main idea came from "smokeythebear".
go to your icq install file \ICQLite\LiteDataFiles\ and rename the file antispam.xml
after that create an empty file called antispam.xml to make sure icq can't create another one.
from now on all your users on the contact list will be marked as spammers but you are able to recieve links again.
it works for me and i don't get any real spam so far.
DISCLAIMER: I AM NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANY PROBLEMS CAUSED WITH THIS METHOD
do it at your own risk
edit: i just talked to a friend and he can get my links without doing it
he said he updates the database regularly.
maybe it is the solution.
i will update you guys