So, you're selfish. Sounds like the wife and kids would be better off without someone like you in their lives
Yes, when a baby comes into the picture the man takes a back seat to a point, as he should. If a grown man cannot handle sharing his wifes time with his child or another mans child then he should be put out with the trash. The kid(s) come first. I'd be more worried about a mother that choses her boyfriend over her child.
I left my eldest sons father because he was a loser just like you and I didn't want my child being brought up around ignorance. So I took my 3 month old child and left the sperm donor and his welfare cheque all to himself.
Not too long after, I found a great guy who wanted to care for my son. He was 18 years old, as was I. He took on something that was not his and made it his. Thats the way a real man works
My husband was brought up well, no he wasn't perfect and he's had his share of problems but he's a good dad to all three of our kids.
The father of my eldest son doesn't care to see him nor does he want anything to do with him. He signed over all rights without giving it a second thought. That right there is sad. What person wouldn't want to see their child , or what type of person would sign away all rights to their child?
This to me is someone who was not brought up so well.
He didn't want kids and was not ready for them, although when I left him he shacked up with a chick that already had three kids by three different fathers, (who are not in their lives) and had one more of his own that he doesn't give a shit about.
Anybody can be a father but it takes a real man to be a daddy