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Originally Posted by AVM
Convenient enough?
Come on...religion RARELY, if ever, comes into play during a relationship. In fact unless devowed extremist, I doubt the subject even comes up often with 20-40 yr old couples. Let alone the monumental decision of when it does come up, "leave soon after". Oh, and he quits his job....
heh, never....thought I'd be on the defense for religion.
But I think people (biasly) look at this circumstance as:
Religion (guy) vs Porn (girl)
Meanwhile this is a unique circumstance, of which warrants objective reasoning. You can't simply classify her as the savior, and the "right" of the two because she promotes the less primitive form of society (non-religion). Guy quits high paying job, the biggest issue/subject - money (72k yr concept being milked). Female leaves soon after....piece it together.
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I think that you are missed one very important part. Any time that you introduce a paradigm shift into a relationship, unless all parties are in accord there will be friction and if one party is less equipped to deal with change the natural and visceral reaction is to flee the situation that causes the discomfort.
You can apply all the moral /ethical/ religious color to this that you want but the fact is that there is only ONE reason that people make polar shifts in their lives. When people feel that their choices have been limited to a degree that they see not way to easily affect change many often make powerful shifts. Some turn to drugs to change their internal state. Others turn to religion and still others commit suicide. In every case except the latter the pain and disease continue.
Quitting porn, giving all your money to the church of the rising sun nor terminating your relationship will make any of the things that are going on inside suddenly vanish. Donny needs some professional therapy and that is an obvious fact. My guess is that he feel out of control and making this shift is a really good way to shirk responsibility.
Both Donny and Belinda are having the same reaction to a common pain. Donny is running to the Lord to escape responsibility for his life and Belinda is running away to escape responsibility for her issues.
I say that we get them both on Dr. Phil...