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Originally Posted by ObnoxiousBitch
IMO the doctrine claiming that natural sexual urges and fantasies are sinful and immoral is ultimately what "hurts families and people" because it forces people to hide their desires and to feel bad about themselves. I've been around this business probably as long as you've been alive, and have known more people and relationships (talent and fan alike) whose lives have been bettered because of porn than have been destroyed.
I'd rather see someone say, "In retrospect, my decision to do thus-and-such didn't exactly turn out as I'd hoped... so now I'm doing something else. That was then, this is now; it's been a slice... moving on," without blaming it on others. More worrisome still is blaming it on invisible forces.
Shit, I made all sorts of stupid mistakes in my early 20s. I'm not dead, maimed or in a looney bin so none of them must've been that bad. It wasn't demons or bad people or anyone other than me, in my naivete, who put me in a bad situation. So the lesson's learned and we move on, no absolution, self-flagellation or repentance necessary.
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I agree... Even ultra-orthadox reverand Shmuley realizes AND preaches that intimacy, eroticism and sexuality are NORMAL things in human life. In fact, he's even written a book about "Kosher Adultery" for married couples.
http://www.amazon.com/Kosher-Adulter.../dp/1580627927
I think it's amazing that people equate sex and nudity with sin.. it teaches a skewed perspective in our society and tells our children that their bodies are dirty and vehicles of wrong. A good, loving god would want us to celebrate the bounty he himself created in us. Not hide it up and be ashamed of the miracle that is our bodies.
Funny, too, that having an outlet for sexual frustration has statsitcally proven time and again all over the world to REDUCE the amount of violent rape and sexual crimes. Wonder if having a harmless outlet for their tendancies without leaving the house is a bad thing then?
http://anthonydamato.law.northwester...20to%20porn%22
http://www.talk2action.org/story/2006/8/24/143425/456
Porn is so horrible. The people are so terrible. We should all be so ashamed of what we do. We provide a service for people just like any other service, it just happens to have more tits and ass. For every marriage porn "tears apart", there's a coward there inside who refuses to seek help, and if he didn't have online porn, he'd have some other (possibly more destructive) vice. I do believe there are people who have pornography "addictions" but anyone can be addicted to something... having an addictive personality happens, porn, drugs, even washing your hands. I had an ex who was addicted to video games and it has COMPLETELY destroyed his life. Those people need PROFESSIONAL help, not someone to preach at them.. That's like jumping from the frying pan into the fire. They should be motivated to get better by love for their mate, not guilt from the church. Guilt only leads to more vicious circles, and if more religious people would spend more time spreading love instead of spreading blame and guilt, there might be a lot less people who meet them at the door with their teeth bared.
Talk about clandestine tactics.. Even moreso after all this I am very leery of this *********. Seems to me they prey very hard on those with guilt and use that guilt to drive people to make the next move... There are a lot of people in this industry because they have had other issues in their life such as abuse etc, but there are ALSo a lot of girls in this industry because they LOVE SEX! That is NOT WRONG. The ones who are here with low self-esteem and the scars of a horrible childhood need someone to take them and teach them how to love themselves, not give themselves mindlessly over to a deity they only hear about when they need to do ONE more thing to get his forgiveness.
I have no problem with religion when it's not used as a vehicle for other ends... and in most cases it is.. I haven't seen many exceptions.