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Originally Posted by SmokeyTheBear
just a side note ( and not to be mean )
but i notice that you said "why step-daughters hate their stepfathers" instead of "why daughters hate their stepfathers"..
To you , she should be your daughter not your stepdaughter. while i understand that maybe you were just pointing that out to us , i hope you dont point that out to her or mention that in front of her, like obviously she knows she is a stepdaughter , and its certainly fair for her to consider you her "step father" i dont think its fair to consider her of anything less than a daughter.. I'm not railing on you just hope that you dont remind her of the fact she is a "step-daughter" all the time , because that could be the reason also.
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I said step because I refered to one as a daughter at her 16th birthday banquet which I paid $600 to throw and paid for a limo to take her and 8 friends to Universal City Walk. When I said, Diana and I would like to thank you all for coming to "our" daughters Sweet Sixteen party the people on her dads side of the room got all butt-hurt that I'd refer to her as my daughter.
"Dude, you din'do nuthin, John donated dat dare sperm mutherfucker. You don't have nun right to be call'in 'er yours!"
OK... I just put the kids up in a 5 bedroom house where they don't have to share rooms, pay their cell phone bill (and it doesn't get turned off for non-payment), pay for all of their school clothes/supplies, hair care, class ring, senior pictures, car, insurance (health, dental, car, etc...) and everything else... And then have to put up with them loving their "daddy" and thinking I am a dick 5 days out of the week. I get weekends off because that is when they need me to pay for the movies, gas to drive to the beach, etc...
But now I am sounding like my love is required because I pay for shit. That is only one aspect of what I do for them. I think the guidance is most important. Teaching them to work for themselves because working for other people is how you live in a 2 bedroom house with 4 kids and drive a minivan.