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There are a list of reasons for resentment...
Woman divorces, then down the road brings another man into the picture.. She's all crazy about the guy but her kids aren't necessarily as fond.. but they're expected to accept him simply because Mom loves the guy.. Now he's in a position of authority, but in the kids' eyes, he has none because he's not their dad..
You're already dealing with kids that didn't want to see their dad walk out the door, now that's compounded by a different man walking in the door that they're now supposed to obey.
It doens't matter if the guy tries to set them straight or not.. He's an unwelcome man in their eyes, let alone in their lives.
No real answer as to the best way to handle it, so long as you don't go overboard with a determination to change what they've been accustomed to all of their lives.. That'll cause even more resentment and in many cases they do everything in their power to try to ruin the mom/non-dad relationship..
Then nobody's happy..
Ya have to make sure they've accepted you into their lives before you can assume the role of authority.
Then you're talking about teenage girls... which is a whole hair pulling scenario in itself..
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