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Congrats!
I got married at 24, divorced at 28. But you know, it's an experience I learned from, and it didn't fail for a lack of love. Yeah, marriage is a hard thing, but so is anything else worth having. You don't just get married and from then on out it's smooth sailing..that's like busting your ass to get a great job and then not working at keeping it. It's a constant process of learning, communicating, adjusting, compromising, and because our experiences shape who we are, we keep changing on a continual basis, meaning that what worked yesterday may not work today. But that doesn't mean you stop trying, you just find out what works today, and if it doesn't work tomorrow, you try something else.
My advice is this: Men and women really are like different species. If you both understand that the golden rule really doesn't work in male/female relationships because we need different things, and communicate expectations clearly, then the error margin is greatly reduced.
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