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Originally Posted by StuartD
Sadly, it seems to be true.
I find that people treat friends, acquintances and other's in business with a certain level of equality and fairness... until they begin to gain a certain level of success, at which point they begin to not only value some people more.. but feel others aren't worth their time.
It's almost comical to see these people fully dismiss others simply because they don't have enough to offer them in return, $$ wise.
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I've had issues with my personal success and friends . . I've found that most of the 'friends' I had, assumed that I would cover all cost, all the time, every time we went to dinner, lunch etc. . . expected me to loan $$ as needed etc . . and it was pointed out to me that I took away all their excuses to be losers too
and very many dropped me due to the nature of my work . . think about, they were pissed because I wouldn't let them come hang out while I shoot, wouldn't hook them up with the models . .
now the people that know what I do and don't know me personally don't make close associations with me and I don't push it . . the friend I have, I've had for 25 years and that's about it for me . . (he's a working musician, and even he doesn't really understand the nature of my work, like most of this forum has no concept of shooting sex from the comments I've seen and read) everyone else is just an association or someone I do biz with . . that's all.
(Just imagine a 51 year old heavily tattooed guy pulls up in a new caddy or vette, somewhat quiet and reserved, and you know that he gets his pole waxed by 18-20 year old hotties and gets paid for it . . How does that hit you? . . Makes people a little uncomfortable in my experience)
anyone I've tried to work with and be 'friends' with has gone 'side-ways' on me in a major way and I no longer allow anyone close that shoots . .
so have success changed me? you bet . . am I an asshole? . . nope . . . I just play it very close, staying focused on the work. I'm always polite and courteous to everyone . . that's called professionalism.
-bmb
edit: also I'm busy as hell . . work 70-100 hrs per week and spend the down time with my daughter . . .